Your First Letter

So you like a girl and you decide to write to her. What to start with?

First of all, address her by her name. Even if you send the same standard letter to several girls, addressing each one by her personal name will create an illusion that the girl considered is the only one you have in mind. Avoid using the words like "dear", "sweet" and other similar flatteries. Save them for the later more intimate correspondence.

Then you should introduce yourself. Any type of correspondence should follow the conversational model. It is much more comfortable to converse with a person whom you know than with someone abstract. It is important to begin the letter with your name and write a few words about who you are, where you are from, and what your occupion is.

Having covered the basics about yourself, you should again return to addressing the girl. You must tell her about why you were specifically interested in her. It's no secret to anyone that there are many times fewer men than girls and women in the databases of various marriage agencies. Therefore even an illusion of the fact that you have focused your attention precisely on her, the one from enormous number of potential candidates, will elicit a feeling of gratitude to you and a desire to answer. Recall something that actually interested you in her profile or photograph - just don't write about her breast or legs.

Then write about yourself and about what you can offer her. It's not worthwhile to pretend modest, but exaggerating your merits in her eyes is also not recommended. Doing this way may cause the girl feeling inferior in comparison to you and she may grow shy about associating with you or even afraid of answering your letter.

You can finish your first letter with a few questions. Ask her something you would like to learn about her. Questions can be quite various but you should try to ask them in such a manner that she would be pleased and would not feel uneasy answering them.

For the particularly "advanced" men, who do not use standard mailings sending the template to several different addresses, we can suggest reading the very beginning of the psychological testing results for each specific girl. We provide there a method of how to attract her and secure her attention. The HI method individual for different types of personality works not only with a face to face meetings but also in respect of correspondence.